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There is nothing wrong with making and updating rules (e.g., no multiday sleepovers; no hard feelings if you cancel at last minute), but each situation is unique, so you need to discuss them on an ongoing basis. If anyone gets emotionally involved, the rules have changed and need to be evaluated again.
"I've interviewed many adults through the years who had friends-with-benefits arrangements that worked well for them when they were single and looking for fun and connection," says Andrea Syrtash, Relationship Expert and Co-Author of It's Okay to Sleep with Him on the First Date. How would you feel if you saw your FWB buddy out with another partner?
Indeed, many surrendered to that lure in actuality: 36 percent of female respondents (but, surprisingly, just 21 percent of the men) had spent a night with an old flame, typically at a class reunion.
Further evidence of Roving Eye Syndrome came from a study of sexuality in the United States commissioned by AARP in 2009: It found that 6 percent to 8 percent of singles age 50 and up were dating more than one person at a time.
"The issue obviously pops up when someone in the friendship secretly (or not so secretly) wants more." Ultimately, casual sex isn't all that casual, and there are a lot of factors we should consider before hitting the sheets with a friend. Sure, sex can 'just happen' but make sure you are on the same page. If it keeps happening, and one person may develop feelings, that's when things can get awkward. "As an example, I suggest that both parties agree that neither will ask about nor tell the other about additional friends," says relationship couch Jess Brighton. "Before you sign up for a friends with benefits arrangement, be honest with yourself about your true intentions and boundaries," says Dr. If you can't handle the fact that you're not exclusive, say so from the beginning. How will you approach the dissolution of your FWB arrangement?
Be clear and communicate the difference between friends with benefits, and what behaviors cross over to dating territory," says Marissa Nelson, LMFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist / Sex Therapist, Founder and CEO of Intimacy Moon Couples Retreats. Eventually, one or both of you will want to move on; how will you feel about this when the time arises? Even if it's to accommodate your partner's feelings. If you change your mind about the arrangement, say so sooner rather than later," says Dr. RELATED: Drunk in Love, the Science of Sex and Alcohol Re-evaluate when necessary.